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Family & Friends that stay away!!!

Hi! I have 2 brothers, one lives in England & the other lives 10mins walk from where I live. The one in England has been over to see me twice since my diagnoses, but the one who lives up the road made a 5min call on Boxing Day to drop off presents othe...

Posted by Pam8 on Sat Feb 11, 2012 1:33 pm with 8 comments

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Hi. I had a similar thing at new year. We always spend new years eve with a group of friends and this year 1/2 of them decided not to come. I phoned them up nd said please please come (may be my last new years eve) but they made various excuses nd did ...

SadieL, Sat Feb 11, 2012 6:25 pm
19, At Uni, and just found out my Mum's cancer is terminal

Hi everyone, about a year and a half ago my mum was first diagnosed with breast cancer (a rare form) she had treatment but was told there was an 80% chance of it returning, and yesterday she had a lot of scans and was told that the cancer had returned ...

Posted by sabrina92 on Thu Feb 09, 2012 2:19 pm with 15 comments

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Jjt, what a lovely post! best wishes to all xxx

mummysboob, Fri Feb 10, 2012 8:03 pm
Feeling crap :(

Not having a good day today... My mum was diagnosed with stage iv bc spread to bones 8 mths ago, but to be honest, as she's in a good positive place right now I'm not as stressed as I was. So long as she's happy/comfortable I can cope with that part of...

Posted by Jjt on Fri Feb 03, 2012 10:43 pm with 6 comments

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Thanks mina61. I think a big part of why I've been feeling so sensitive about it (apart from the obvious) is that I know that, selfish as it sounds, I need to keep a bit back for me and not "just" look after my mum/family, work, home, and stress. I kno...

Jjt, Fri Feb 10, 2012 3:06 pm
Partner with breast cancer

Hi all, I am totally new to this and am slightly struggling. My partner has received 2 sessions of chemo so far and it breaks my heart to see her going through this. We have a further 6 to do every 3 weeks. Friends and family are great, but often you h...

Posted by Ital71 on Tue Jan 10, 2012 1:54 pm with 26 comments

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Hi theloner.com, summer20 and ChoccieMuffin, Thanks for the advice and support from you all, it's very kind and much appreciated :) x I don't know about you ladies and gents but I find thinking about the logistics of the entire situation to be worse...

lorjema, Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:34 am
worry about daughters results

Hi my youngest daughter 28 y ears old was diagnosed with BC she has had a lumpectomy and had some of her nodes removed and she will get her results on the 16th feb,I am trying to stay positive as she is being a marvel so super strong, but she is my bab...

Posted by budster on Tue Feb 07, 2012 9:33 pm with 5 comments

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Hi Budster, I really feel for you in this situation, frankly I think it is worse to see a loved one go through all the BC treatment than having to do it oneself. The ladies on here are great and have given you lots of good advice (as always). I woul...

carolihne, Wed Feb 08, 2012 12:33 pm
Other teenagers who have recently lost their mum...

Hi, my name is Devon and I am 19. I have a younger sister, 14, and we recently lost our mum after a 7 and a half year battle. I was just wondering whether anyone else was in the same situation and if they could offer any advice or words of wisdom?

Posted by deedee25 on Mon Feb 28, 2011 11:44 pm with 11 comments

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So very sorry you have lost your Mum, such a very difficult time for you both, please keep posting as sometimes it helps just to say things out loud, to be able to write down your feelings, someone will always answer you here. The helpline too, give th...

katytc, Mon Feb 06, 2012 11:13 am
19 and losing hope

Hi, I'm 19 and female. I guess I just really need a place to rant to be honest. My families had it really bad these last few years. My uncle died. My brother almost died after a stone in his appendix cut a whole in his stomache and infected his body...

Posted by Mini61 on Sun Feb 05, 2012 10:11 pm with 9 comments

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Sending you big hugs, both my partner and myself have had cancer and are now both 12 months and 18 months out horrible things happen but you get through it and adjust to a new normal. You are very young and have plenty of life for things to come good. ...

hatty, Mon Feb 06, 2012 8:41 am
How do I tell my Son

I have very recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Although the tomour is expansive, thankfully it looks as though my lymph modes are clear. I am having a CT scan on Monday and will speak to my Consultant Surgeon on Thursday about how I want to ...

Posted by glam-ma on Fri Dec 02, 2011 4:32 pm with 15 comments

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Hi, I'm 19 and female mother has breast cancer (47). I don't really match the outline you gave of your child but here goes... My mum was diagnosed 1 week before xmas and didn't tell me and my brother (21) for 1 and a half weeks. Her reasoning was th...

Mini61, Mon Feb 06, 2012 12:54 am
friends diagnosis

Hi everyone, i have just signed up and is my first time posting, i really feel like i need some advice. My dearest friend has recently been diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and is going in for a mastectomy on tuesday. She is coping amazingly well...

Posted by Bexter33 on Thu Jan 05, 2012 10:29 pm with 5 comments

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Hi Bexter, My mum was diagnosed just before xmas and I was in the same position as you. Very usure of what to do. I'm 19 with a 21 year old brother. What I found great was going through pictures of all the fun times we've had and making a list of all...

Mini61, Mon Feb 06, 2012 12:41 am
depressed teenager

Hello. I had a mastectomy 5th October and SNB which showed spread so have to have axillary clearance 2nd Nov. The doctors have hinted that I will need chemo. Much as I am worried about what is to come my 15 year old daughter is really not good about th...

Posted by 1234 on Tue Oct 25, 2011 11:26 pm with 5 comments

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Hello 1234, I'm currently 19. At the age of 14 I started to selfharm, there was a lot of issues going on in my family life. But that often isn't the only reason as to why us teenagers selfharm and end up depressed. I would suggest that the closest pe...

Mini61, Mon Feb 06, 2012 12:27 am
diagnosis of breast cancer without a mammogram

hiya ladies, iv got a query which has really been eating away at me over the last week.my nan whos 84 has been diagnosed with breast cancer and is due for surgery on 09/02/2012, on her visit to the breast clinic she only had a biopsy taken, i asked whe...

Posted by ani2012 on Sat Feb 04, 2012 12:51 am with 6 comments

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I think (but am not 100% positive - someone else may know) that if breast cancer is found as a lump in an elderly person it is usually slow growing (not agressive) so they can treat the patient a bit more gently and don't need to investigate the other ...

Alice Cliche, Sun Feb 05, 2012 7:01 pm
Looking for some support

Hi My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in November. She is at present under going chemo. Doctors are happy with the treatment so that's good news. Sadly just over a week ago my grandfather suddenly passed, my mums father. I live with my mum and da...

Posted by Ginger1984 on Thu Feb 02, 2012 5:06 pm with 4 comments

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Hi I want to say thanks to everyone who commented. Really has made me feel better. Thank you x

Ginger1984, Sat Feb 04, 2012 3:40 pm
Tattoo for mum.

Hi all. I know alot of people dont like tattoo's but im after some help. I have been looking at getting my first tattoo for about 4 years. I have decided that now is the time. My mum starts her chemo this thursday. I want a script tattoo on my forea...

Posted by wacky racer on Sun Jul 24, 2011 8:35 pm with 64 comments

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Thanks eveyone. Ginger1984, Would love to see a pic when you get your tattoo done. Any ideas what your having done? Mark.

wacky racer, Sat Feb 04, 2012 12:12 pm
In denial - mother in law - how to support her

My mother-in-law is 80 this year and has been diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer. She refuses to read anything she has been given and has handed everything to me. She is booked for CT and bone scans in the next week and then they will start with...

Posted by longj007 on Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:11 pm with 5 comments

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Hi... fortunate is the mother, or mother-in-law, who has a caring and internet-savvy younger person to support her after a devastating diagnosis. May I just add that breast cancer in elderly women is often slow-growing, and (especially if there are ot...

mrsblue, Wed Feb 01, 2012 11:21 am
Arguing

Today I was tasked with putting up a shower curtain. A simple task, what could possibly go wrong? My partner and I are living with breast cancer. She was diagnosed a year ago and has since had a mastectomy, chemo, radio and is now having herceptin unt...

Posted by theloner.com on Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:12 am with 18 comments

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Unfortunately arguing seems par for the course in relationships to some degree. It is sometimes difficult to gauge what causes an outburst. You are not alone in the boat and I can't begin to imagine what it is like to deal with the physical and menta...

Richardh72, Mon Jan 30, 2012 2:58 pm
Husbands perspective

Hi everyone, I'm here on behalf of my wife, she was diagnosed two weeks ago with a mixed cancer in her left breast. We found out today she will have to have the breast removed. At 34 years old the doctors are quite worried and are testing for the cance...

Posted by jayh29 on Wed Jan 25, 2012 12:54 am with 6 comments

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You've had lots of good stuff there, so I don't have anything to add but a friendly wave and lots of empathy. Join in on any threads you feel like joining in on, this is a club for everyone affected by BC, not just the person with the lump. Best of ...

ChoccieMuffin, Wed Jan 25, 2012 10:43 am
New

Hi Im new to this forum, my 28 year old daughter has just be diagnosed with breast cancer, we are all devastated, my daughter is being so brave and we are all falling to bits my daughter has just been married less than a year and has got to lovely chi...

Posted by budster on Mon Jan 23, 2012 9:52 pm with 4 comments

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Hi Yes she is having a WLE on the 1 feb, thanks for all your replies I just feel like im in a bubble and will wake up soon xxx

budster, Tue Jan 24, 2012 2:10 pm
How to talk to a mum who doesn't want to worry us?

My mum just told me yesterday that she has been diagnosed with stage 2 lobular cancer. She has an MRI in a week and then surgery and radiotherapy. She'd waited days before telling me and my siblings (all in our twenties), even seeing us for dinner last...

Posted by charlie_b on Mon Jan 16, 2012 12:11 am with 7 comments

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Thanks all for the replies. Just got back from mum's and I'm a bit worried as she's throwing out her clothes and trying to give me all her jewellery and talking in absolutes. She hasn't been sleeping I don't think. She has her MRI next week, so I thin...

charlie_b, Wed Jan 18, 2012 12:15 am
Going back to uni after finding out my mum has cancer.

I recently came home from uni for a family event and after my mum told me that she had breast cancer. Im completely devastated and even two days later it still hasnt really sunken in. I am supposed to be going back to uni on sunday but feel so guilty f...

Posted by Dannii on Fri Oct 21, 2011 10:00 pm with 15 comments

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Dear Aditi As a recently diagnosed mum with a 16 yr old doing GCSEs at the moment, I was very touched by your post. Like your mum, my biggest fear is the impact on my daughter's exams and her longer term prospects so I am trying to get to the point wit...

lelly61, Sat Jan 14, 2012 9:15 am
Expressing my emotions

Hiya everyone, I just want a bit of help and support really. At my wits end. I’m in my early 20’s and my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in April, she has undergone chemo, which despite her using a cold cap for the first time, the pain was unbear...

Posted by metoyou on Tue Oct 04, 2011 12:07 pm with 5 comments

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Hi metoyou, I am also in the same situation as you. I am in my early twenties and like you, the best years of my life are right now. I cant help the occasional thought " why me, why now?" too. I just wanted to be normal. But if you look at it, God giv...

aditiiitb, Sat Jan 14, 2012 6:18 am
Child grief

Hi all, I haven't posted on here for some time... I lost my brave mum to breast cancer last March, which has been sad and difficult for our family, but without forgetting my mom, we are living our lives as she would want us to. I have 3 young children,...

Posted by Jen on Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:18 am with 6 comments

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Hi Jen Specialist counselling make help. This is one organisation on Merseyside: http://www.listeningearmerseyside.org.uk/projects/butterflies.htm They do a wonderful job in a very loving environment - specifically designed for children and young p...

DJ007, Tue Jan 10, 2012 1:59 pm
Where did all my friends go?

Hi Just wondering if anyone out there is having the same experience with their 'friends'. i was diagnosed last November, aged 43, with a small baby, and it was a big shock. i contacted my friends to 'share' my bad news and most of them seemed suppor...

Posted by jo-jo on Thu Dec 01, 2011 12:24 am with 20 comments

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Hi Yes I suppose you are right in that I should focus on the people who do care. The ones who dont and have been "scared off" may be going through the same treatment one day and then the shoe will be on the other foot, then they will know what it ...

chrissy16, Tue Jan 10, 2012 12:04 pm
devastated

hi i am so new to this. my mum was diagnosed with a grade 3 breast cancer on 23/12/2011. and i am really struggling to come to terms with it. we decended for xmas as planned and all kept a brave face and did not talk about it but i found this really ha...

Posted by michellek on Sat Jan 07, 2012 10:29 pm with 3 comments

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thanks ladies to both of you getting someone elses perspective is great...i am going with mum for a heart scan tomorrow as they asked for that before her chemo starts. feel better knowing i can go with her for that. i have so many questions that i want...

michellek, Sun Jan 08, 2012 10:47 pm
Recently diagnosed mum

Hi I'm new to this and I'm posting because I am at a loose end today as my mum is having her first op and I'm not able to go with her (overcrowding in waiting room apparently) She was diagnosed on 14th Dec after we spent the whole day of her being prod...

Posted by g3mm4xx on Thu Jan 05, 2012 2:05 pm with 4 comments

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Hi Gemma Really hope your Mum is doing OK, you all need support at a time like this. Can only really offer a tip for you regarding your brother and Dad. Sadly my Mum was diagnosed in September this year, it was horrific....and then I was diagnosed in...

Zax, Fri Jan 06, 2012 9:19 am
Live Chat for Partners???

Hi all I have been on here for a few months now. My partner diagnosed with TNBC in Jan 2010 but unfortunately we are no longer together as it devastated our relationship. If im honest a contributory factor was my own understanding of everything that wa...

Posted by homerboy on Wed Jan 04, 2012 4:35 pm with 0 comments

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Hi all I have been on here for a few months now. My partner diagnosed with TNBC in Jan 2010 but unfortunately we are no longer together as it devastated our relationship. If im honest a contributory factor was my own understanding of everything that wa...

homerboy, Wed Jan 04, 2012 4:35 pm

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